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The Lil Wise Wonders Team.

 

 


"The famous lines of Gandhi, a well-known Indian activist says: “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others."

 

It is a known fact that our body is made up of water. In some organisms, 90% of their body weight is composed of it, while the human body is made up of 60% of it. Water is also essential for the organs to do their function, as it aids in the regulation of our body temperature, as well as the maintenance and regeneration of our body cells and tissues. When we lose this substance in our body, we are weakened, we get headaches and become dizzy, and in most cases, we are dehydrated. Mainly the reason why medical practitioners always tell us to replace water every time our body loses it. When we sweat, breathe, perspire, and even in digestion, we lose this fluid. So, in return, we need to rehydrate by drinking fluids and eat foods that contains water in them. The recommendation is to drink 8 glasses of water a day which is equivalent to 2 litres or half a gallon, even more, if the need arises. If you want to take care of your body and your health in particular, supplying it with the right amount of water it needs is the most easy and affordable way to start it with.

 

For generations, women have been greatly overshadowed by men. Let’s face it. Women are believed to be the “weaker sex”, even still to this day. Laws, gender roles, and social attitudes made women face hindrances to reaching their full potential and biased treatments against the opposite sex. Before, women were expected to only serve their husbands, tend their children, and do the house chores, because they have been regarded incapable of doing things other than those. For many years, women have tried to raise their voices for them to be heard loud and clear that they are not weak, that they are not limited, and that they are not the helpless “damsels in distress” that men often see in them as. Women can also do things that men can do. They are more than just homemakers and caregivers. They are women, and they want to feel empowered --- and its high time, definitely.

It took years and years for women’s achievements to be acknowledged; from their right to vote, their right in pursuing career growth and profession, to finally be given the same salaries that men are paid for with the same position, and for them to be treated equally with men. These societal norms that were established long ago deprived women of their rights and privileges --- jobs, academe ladder, and even marriage so to speak.

 

Our lives are hectic as it is. Each of us are confronted with a fair share of joys and pains, victories and adversities, successes and struggles, as well as wins and losses. And more often than not, we are preoccupied because of these things. We become stressed and are pressured by what life has to offer. But that’s okay.

No matter what life throws at us, the very core of living is to not forget to take care of ourselves and breathe. We should always remember that it’s okay to take time for relaxation, to unwind, and to take a break from everything that’s pressing.

 

Life isn’t all about sugar and skittles. You are not born to lay in a bed of roses forever. There will be challenges you will encounter as you go, there will be obstacles you will need to face, and you might have to shed tears along the way. But of course, there will be a lot of good times, bright, and happy days. However, just like the famous Chinese symbol, life is composed of a Yin Yang where a concept of two principles are believed to be the dark and negative side (Yin) and the bright and positive side (Yang) which influences the destinies of creatures and people alike.

That being sad, life is a balance of ups and downs, happy and sad, good times and bad, rainy days and sunny days, as well as thunderstorms and rainbows. It is like a wheel in motion where at times we are on top, and sometimes at the bottom. Very unpredictable. Good thing if we know how to be happy, what makes us happy, and what gives our lives meaning. We celebrate for the victories and dance our heart away for good news. But, what exactly do we do when life gives us adversities? How do we cope when what we expect doesn’t happen? Things turn out bad and become a memory we don’t want to remember? Some breakdown. Some will be torn to pieces. It can affect our day to day dealings with other people, and affect our lives mentally, emotionally, and physically, in all aspects possible.

Peter Stavinoha, PhD., cited five (5) types of highly stressful situations and ways as to how each one can cope and handle it successfully. Read on.

 

Evident in young children is to groove and sing to different music tunes and dance their heart away while singing at the top of their lungs. Some children even show us their interest to learning different musical instruments at a young age. May it be playing the piano, drumming with the hands, learning the guitar, and so on. Others find joy in expressing themselves through movements and steps with all out energy, and this are all good. In fact, music and dance has proven to have a positive impact on children with regards to development, physically and mentally. In addition, learning these things can help them interact socially with other kids.

 

Many parents, for some, do not realise the importance and role of music and dance in the lives of their children. Some think that their kids are not excelling just like the others who love the academics like math, science, or history. Little did they know that just like any other subjects taught at school, music and dance plays a very important part in children’s learning and contribute a lot in terms of growth, development, coordination, and skills. 
 
 
Initiating talks about these things with our kids might be awkward and uncomfortable at times. Whenever these things are mentioned with kids present, whether on purpose or not, parents visibly freeze in surprise and do everything that they can to change the topic into something else. What’s even worse is that some parents think that it is okay to skip those topics and not discuss it at all, as they think their kids are too young to talk about such things. But in all honesty, they are never too young or too early to learn about sex, relationships, drugs, and even mental health issues or suicide. It is really up to the parents on how to bring up these topics in an age-appropriate manner that is easy for their children to understand. Which is the true challenge in the first place, however. Parents sometimes think that discussing these topics might put the idea right in their mind to explore and experiment for themselves. Which brings us to the question:

Is there a need to discuss these topics with our kids?

And raises another question:

If parents do not discuss topics like these, who else will?

Tricky isn’t it? But eventually, kids will have to learn all of these things. And what better way for them to learn and be guided about it is through the responsibility of each parent. If we don’t do it now, they will learn it from somewhere and someone else. This can cause confusion, wrong information given, they may become more curious, and might end up learning from this the hard way by making mistakes or wrong decisions. Depriving children with this information are not helping them at all. We don’t want this to happen, do we?
While the world at large has never been kind to anyone, it has become extremely cruel to vulnerable young minds. Unfiltered content that encourage drug addiction, promiscuity and criminal acts from many parts of the web entice young children to act as they see. In the real world, these threats become more tangible when they take form in peers who pressure friends to take on roles that risk their lives.
 
So as parents let’s sit down with our children and talk about these topics, be open, honest, and allow the child to ask questions and let them know that you are there for them if they need any help. This opens a good communication process with your children and they are more likely to trust you and your guidance in difficult situations.

 

Life is full of choices. In fact, the moment we open our eyes every morning is a confrontation right then as to how we are going about to face the day. Are we going to take a bath? What time should we be at school or in our workplace? What clothes should we be wearing? What are we eating for breakfast? And things like that. Our days are composed of choices – may it be big or small. Still, we have to face them.

WE HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE.

As we enter the new year 2019, it seems like all of us have another chance to get our lives right back on track again. It gives us an opportunity to have a clean slate in terms of decisions and experiences that we must make, being more careful about it in order not to regret anything as we start a brand new year. But, along with the new year comes a new series of things we need to make a choice of. That needs our decision-making.

So, how good are we really, in terms of making decisions?

 
 
 
 
Comparing the figures from 2016, a new data from the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) reveals that suicide rate increased rapidly and significantly, from 11.8 deaths per 100,000 to 12.7 deaths per 100,000 in over 12 months surpassing the World Health Organisation’s average rate of 10.5 deaths per 100,000. 

 

The said data reported that 3128 people died by suicide in 2017. 2348 of it are males while 780 are females. In a daily conversion, it’s 8.6 suicides a day which is 9.1% more compared to that of 2016. 

 

With all these tallied figures, it’s alarming that there has been a constant increase despite the effort of thousands of Australians in governments, in suicide prevention, in health centres, in work places, in the academe, and communities who work hand in hand in high hopes to stop these people attempting to take their own lives, or too see a decline in the rate, at least.

 

That is why it is important to emphasize to these people the importance of good social foundation. Suicide has become a taboo in conversations between family members. This is caused by the stigma that has surrounded this topic, which had led to people seeing it as something sensitive ---- something to avoid discussing for various reasons, maybe from a religious or psychological standpoint or just that it’s an uncomfortable topic.

 

Parents should always spend time talking with their kids, ask them what’s going on, what’s good and what’s not in their lives at the moment, what they need, how they feel, and to always, always assure them that whatever it is that they are going through, that you are there to help, love and support them. They are never alone. In a time where the media have a very strong influence among our youth, parental guidance is very much needed. What they see on TV or other social media platforms might not always be beneficial for them. A lot of TV shows today that depict suicide have started discussions whether they have appropriately shown Depression as one of the major cause of leading people to commit suicide. However, most of the time, it is in the screens of their televisions that children see how the entertainment industry seem to “romanticise” or “miscommunicate” that suicide is a way to end one’s problems and misery.

 

 

Humans as we are, do and commit mistakes which is inevitable. “Nobody’s perfect” as the saying goes. Whether it is done accidentally, unknowingly, or on purpose, mistake is something we can no longer undo. But we can always choose to move on and make it as an opportunity for learning and growth.

Surprisingly, there are mistakes done unknowingly or accidentally. This is when carelessness of a person kicks in and not thinking about the outcome or what could go wrong. It is unintentional, but the pain, harm, or damage may take us forever to heal.
We might not notice it but yes, there are mistakes done on purpose. When we know beforehand what we are doing and by putting ourselves in an undesirable situation, but we still do it anyway. This becomes our choice that we have chosen to continue knowing what we are doing may be wrong or a risk. Therefore, any consequences resulting from this decision or choices become our responsibility we will be having accountability for it.
At times we feel that the mistake we have done is something really grave and we feel like we are doomed to more and more failures or disappointments. We forget to pick ourselves up again and get back up. We tend to dwell on the situation and repeat that unfortunate scenario in our mind all over again. We don’t realise that these are also the moments where we need to put a lot of effort into understanding ourselves and finding in us the willingness to forgive and let go. Yes, we may be at fault, whether intentionally or not we need to deal with the mistake at hand and make amends where needed and then move on, so we can work on becoming the best version of who we are. For some, it may take a while to recover and forgive, but at the end of the day, we should realise that part of being a human is to fail at times, but what’s important is we learn from it and then move forward.

 

“Nothing is fully learnt if we don’t make mistakes.”

 

 

As parents, we want the best for our children. We want to bring the best out of them and provide them with a safe, nurturing, fun environment. This includes allowing them to mingle and socialise with their peers. However, some kids have difficulty getting started when it comes to socialisation. In a time of tablets, smart phones, and online friendships, some children may find difficulty with reaching out to others. It's normal for kids to feel a little timid and shy when meeting new people for the first time but it is essential for them to learn how to break the ice and come out of their shells.

No matter what we do, it is undeniably true that gadgets are a part of life in this technological era. Computers, smartphones, tablets, and other gaming consoles are just a few of these devices that people consider as vital in today’s way of living. That being said, our children are not exempted to the fact that they too, are exposed to these technological advancements that are easily grabbed within their reach. The question is, are they ready for this?

 
 
 
Parenting Style is defined as a psychological abstract that constitutes standard strategies to be used by parents in raising their children. The parenting style that parents choses to employ among their children and within their household is most crucial in determining their children’s attitude and overall behaviour. Today, psychologists have established four major parenting styles, each of which has different characteristics and will bring out different effects and reactions towards children, depending on how parents go about their own way of rearing their kids. While we all have different methods and views about how we raise our children, it is important to keep in mind that whatever parenting style we end up with, our children’s welfare and development should be at the top of our priority. This means that their overall health and growth should be considered, firsthand.

There are four types of parenting styles identified as:

·         Authoritative

·         Uninvolved or Neglectful

·         Permissive

·         Authoritarian
 


 
We were not born into this world having beliefs about what life is all about. We were not created similarly like a gadget that comes with a manual of belief systems we could turn to when faced with difficulties that involves big decision making and critical thinking. From the time we were born, we are more likely of a blank sheet of paper. Ready to be written upon as we go through life. This means that as humans, we are shaped through our experiences and daily life encounters, as well as the way we see things and our views about the world we live in that also shapes the way we mould our convictions and the principles we hold true about life.

As parents, we should be clear about our own beliefs to begin with. It is important that we acknowledge the beliefs we value when parenting because it is the motivational driving force that we go back to when making decisions, building up the right attitude, and influence our overall totality as humans. These beliefs should be acted upon and should manifest in our lives in order for us to say that these are what really matters to us. It should be shown in our actions, and not just talk about it all the time without actually doing it.

 

 

School is a place of learning. It should be an institution where parents can trust and be confident that the school will provide the necessary education, training and safety required by our children. At school, children are expected to perform academically, excel in tests and assessments, do their school work and tasks, get along with peers, and hone their craft be it in sports, music, or other extra-curricular activities. But the question is, what if all these above-mentioned activities and assessments do not contribute to our child’s learning and growth but instead hinder it by causing them to worry or fear the future and what lies ahead of them, even before they have actually experience it? And yes, it is indeed happening. Even at school, we cannot save our children from feeling anxious over all these expectations. That is what we call “school anxiety”.


As humans, we sometimes think that we are limited and are only capable of doing so much. Self-doubt is somewhat quite a constant struggle especially since we all have different coping mechanisms. For some, it is very difficult to believe and have faith in themselves because most of the time, we are consumed by the thought that it is normal to make mistakes and the downside of this is that we dwell on these mistakes or failures and find it hard to pull ourselves back up.

 
 
They may be little, but the potential that they carry within them is beyond compare. Children, as young as they are, learn lessons as they grow that has significant effects later on. As parents, we envision our children to become successful one day. We are hopeful for a bright future for them and we want to see them achieve every dream that they have dreamt of. What we envision our children to be in the future is in our hands today.   If we want our children to be leaders tomorrow, then we must teach them young. We have the bigger responsibility to allow our child to reach their full potential by beginning to be a role model and showing them that we are a good example of how and what we want them to be. After all, children follow examples, and not advices. No matter how much we try to tell them to be this or that, and we aren’t doing it ourselves, then chances are that your child isn’t going to listen or do it either. That is why as parents, we need to be mindful of the things we do and re-evaluate ourselves as well, remembering the fact that our little ones are there, observing us at a distance and the way we handle things.

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All of us are naturally born mindful and this trait is already within us however, it would be more acknowledged if we keep on practising it on our day to day circumstances and experiences. 

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Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Onset factors that contribute to depression includes genes, changes in hormonal levels, certain medical conditions, stress, grief, and difficult life circumstances making it one of the many causes of a major disability worldwide. Almost all of us can suffer from depression. Men and women, adults, teens, or even children. Usually, it is a bit of a normal experience for young people to have "low spirits" and the feeling of "drowning in the grief" once in a while. However, with the many changes that come along with adolescence whether physically, emotionally, psychologically, and socially, comes the whirlwind of emotions and moods they need to understand and get a good grasp of. This way, they could always do a self-check and evaluation which will allow them to cope with the situation and avoid a serious problem in the long run. 

“Let’s skip the next class for now and go hang out at the mall! I’m sure this is going to be fun!”
said 14-year-old Issa to her group of 3 friends.

Bullying is an aggressive behaviour which is not acceptable and shouldn’t be experienced by anyone. At the end of the day, we are all humans, and the effects of this behaviour last a Lifetime. We would never want to be in this situation ourselves or for our love ones to experience this kind of behaviour, and to be the bully is just as detrimental to one’s character and integrity. The truth is, bullying is NEVER OKAY, no matter what our position would be. You should always treat people as you wish to be treated yourself!

As they grow, children develop their personality and a life of their own based on the social environment they actually belong in. In fact, a number of psychological theorists claim to believe that social

relationships and interactions are driving forces in their development. Meaning to say, as children, they are like sponges that absorb whatever it is that they see, hear, or observe in this external environment –

which includes YOU. Yes, you! 
As parents or guardians to these little ones, we should be mindful of our actions and reactions towards things that our children could be a witness to. This will help them analyse and filter as to what, why, and

how to behave, respond, and act to certain situations they will be confronted with, as they grow. This is where CONFIDENCE comes into the picture. By default, children would always look up to you

as to how you guide them, nurture them, and how you make them feel good about themselves. We’ve listed 3 key roles parents should do to boost CONFIDENCE in their little ones.


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